According to SG, I snore. Since I haven’t recorded myself to see if this is true, I can’t totally refute his claim but I am rather irritated that I would engage in such unladylike snufflings.
It’s becoming a problem. Either SG spends most of the night poking me, which means I get no sleep, or he goes to sleep on the sofa, which means I feel guilty (in both of these scenarios, SG still gets no sleep). Two adults + lack of sleep = grumpy adults, so this isn’t a sustainable situation.
I’ve tried sleeping in different positions; he claims it doesn’t matter how I’m situated. I’ve tried the oh-so-sexy strips; he claims they don’t help. I’ve tried going to bed hours after SG so he’s deeply asleep; he claims he wakes up around 3:00 anyway and can’t get back to sleep because of the noise. He’s tried sleeping with his headphones; evidently, they don’t help.
And so, now, I’m so paranoid, I can barely sleep when he’s beside me, which means I sleep lightly through most of the night and fall into a deep sleep when he leaves in the morning – and that means I get an even later start than I usually would.
SG doesn’t really help my paranoia, either, given the fairly typical conversation we have in the wee hours:
[poke, poke, poke]
Me: What?
SG: You’re snoring.
Me: No, I’m not.
SG: Yes, you are.
Me: I’m wide awake since the last time you poked me, I think I’d know if I was snoring.
SG: You just think you’re awake but you’re really asleep. And you’re snoring.
Me: I think I know when I’m awake and when I’m asleep. And I don’t hear anything.
SG: Well, I hear it, and even if you’re not loud, you’re rhythmic.
Me: That’s called breathing.
He’s ordered some earplugs. If they don’t help, I may be spending the rest of my sabbatical back in PRU City.
People snore, it happens. So what exactly is he trying to accomplish by POKING YOU? That is just silly and passive agressive. He’s a light sleeper … tell him to try Melatonin before he goes to bed. It is an herbal, non-addictive sleeping pill. Also you might get checked by the doctor, it might be your adenoids or you may need one of those sleep mask things which actually are very effective.
Don’t worry, SmalltownProf, the poking is just an attempt to quiet the noise. I don’t like it but I understand (especially since I do the same to him sometimes). If I stop for long enough, SG can get back to sleep and everyone’s happy again.
My husband snores and sometimes I poke him too, hoping if he shifts or moves he might stop, but I will say, most of my poking is subconscious/half asleep, it doesn’t necessarily make sense, but you do it.
What I do is wear earplugs (the non foam ones), Putting them in right really helps and for the most part, it works well.
We’re trying earplugs, badacademic2. SG says they help a little, so maybe we have a solution.
I have found that rubbing DH’s tummy helps in a way that poking and violent kicking did not. The other half of our blog slept in a different room from her sig other until he got a cpap machine because the snoring was so bad. So another vote for seeing a doctor. The dentist is trying to get my DH to do a sleep study because apparently the snoring is caused by the same thing that causes teeth problems of some sort.
Interesting about the teeth thing! I’m going to mention this at my next check-up. Honestly, if it’s bad enough for a cpap, I may just cry.